Who wants to hang out with people who complain all the time? I certainly don’t, and I’ll bet you don’t either. I am not saying we should deny that life has problems. We do not live in denial. We just don’t like being around people who complain all the time.
The adage is true. If something can be fixed, fix it. If it can’t be fixed, then accept it. But don’t spend time complaining about it.
You know the type. It’s the guy you pray you don’t get stuck next to when a group goes out for dinner. You know him. He will drone on and on about his problems all night long. Or, the lady you learned not to ask how she is doing because the last time you asked she told you for 45 minutes. She made sure to tell you about every ache and pain she has ever endured. You had to extract yourself from the conversation by pretending you had to go to a meeting.
Why is this so important? Because for the big life you want to live, you want positive, strong friends.
My experience has been the high functioning, winsome, happy friends you want to have will not stay close to you if you are constantly complaining. The people who are drawn to a complainer are also complainers.
I ran across a quote about complaining a few years ago. I’m not sure of where it originated, but I love the sentiment. So, do me and you a favor.Memorize this quote! Tattoo it on your body so you don’t forget it! Write it on your bathroom mirror so you see it every morning when you get up!
Here it is . . . .
When you complain you are a living breathing crap magnet.
I know it’s not delicately said, but it’s true. When you complain you are setting yourself up to only attract other negative complaining people into your life. So attract the kind of people you want to be around by being a winsome, helpful and positive person.
Say it with me….I don’t want to be a crap magnet.