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She Has “It”

She Has “It”

I met Aneta Griggs 13 years ago when I was speaking at a youth conference in Poland. After a general session, many of the teenagers gathered around one night to talk about life in their country and what life was like in the USA. I remember her well. She was quite young, just 18 years old, but her English was extremely advanced. I remember telling the group of young people that night that if they ever came to the US for a visit, they could stay with our family. Everyone laughed. “What an offer,” they must have thought, “but how could we ever get to America?”

But Aneta was different. She immediately began figuring out how she could raise the money for her trip. She made it happen. She came not once but three times. We were so happy. While she was with us, my daughter-in-law took her to New York to go shopping. My wife took her to California. Our friends took her to see the Backstreet Boys. We taught her to drive. She got an American driver’s license. My friend and I took her skydiving. She rode in a race car 130 miles an hour around the Atlanta International Raceway. We took her on a motorcycle trip to the North GA mountains. She acted in a drama at our church. She helped out some business owner friends at their company. She went on a youth camp retreat with us. She became our Polish daughter.

Six years ago, my wife and I and two of our best friends flew to Poland to be at Aneta’s wedding. She had fallen in love with an Englishman named Matt. They were marrying and then moving to the eastern coast of England. Their wedding was stunning. The food and festivities at a Polish wedding were amazing. We celebrated with them and then they headed to their honeymoon. We have not seen Aneta in six years. Until this weekend… Jane and I arrived in Lowenstoft Friday night. We have spent the last few days with Matt and Aneta and their two year old daughter, Lidia. It has been wonderful. This young Polish girl has grown into an amazing woman. Her English is now perfect. She is a teacher. She is a mom. She is a wife. We are so proud of her. Visiting in her and Matt’s home has been a highlight of our trip. It has reminded us what a special lady Aneta is. What is it in some people that just separates them from the pack? Why was she able to make the trips to the US work when others dreamed about it but could never figure out how to do it? I don’t know the answer to those questions. I just know there is something unusual in certain people that allows them to live life a little larger than most others. Aneta has it for sure. Knowing her has certainly made our life bigger, too.

But I Like Those French Fries

But I Like Those French Fries

“The French people are so rude.”  I can’t tell you how many times I have heard that statement from Americans. However, I have never experienced it. This is my 10th trip to France and I am in Paris right now. What I have experienced is lovely people, exquisite foods, and a beautiful city. Are there rude people here? Probably. Are their rude people in your hometown? Of course.

We find what we are looking for. I intentionally choose to see the best in people. Most times I find exactly what I am expecting to find. I have met some of the kindest people in the world right here in Paris.

Stop stereotyping. People are people. Love them. Be kind to them. Cut them some slack. Don’t expect them to be exactly like the people from your town because they are not from your town. Learn to appreciate differences. Doing that allows you to live a larger, more inclusive life. Don’t be that person who moans and complains because you can’t order sweet tea in Paris or find a Parisian to speak English to you whenever you discover you are a little lost. This is a beautiful country with a lot of beautiful people. Opening ones eyes to see is the secret.

Burn the Ships!

Burn the Ships!

Our guest blogger today is one of my best friends going all the way back to college in Houston, Texas. Mark Denison is a former pastor and chaplain to the Houston Rockets. He has served on two university boards, been published in numerous professional publications, and is the author of “The Daily Walk.” He lives with Beth, his wife of 33 years, in Bradenton, Florida, where he works as a corporate consultant.

It was a strange new world. Sure, they had heard stories about riches and treasures, but when they stepped ashore, they didn’t know what to expect. After a rendezvous in Cuba, Hernan Cortez led his 400 men to the coast of present day Mexico. The men stepped onto Mexico’s shore in February of 1519. As had been the case in Cuba, a group of men moved to take charge of the now emptied 11 ships, planning to do the normal thing – to guard the ships while Cortez led the rest of the men in exploration of the interior.

This was the safe thing to do. By guarding the ships, they would preserve a way of escape should Cortez run into a band of head hunting natives. Who wouldn’t want a way out? Cortez didn’t. He shouted, “Burn the ships!” His message was clear: “No turning back. We’re all in. We are pushing forward, no matter what.”

That’s living the big life – no escape clause. Turning back is not an option. You can live the big life – but only after you burn the ships.

Julia Child Taught Us More Than How To Cook

Julia Child lived a big life. She was a teacher and an epicurean philosopher. To me, Julia was the closest thing I have in my belief system to a saint.

Epicureanism is a philosophy that says the point of life is pleasure. That’s the philosophy Julia believed in and taught.

Hers was not pleasure involving excess. She often repeated the Oscar Wilde quote, “Everything in moderation including moderation.” Epicurus, and Julia taught that the way to attain pleasure was to live modestly, to gain knowledge of the workings of the world, and to limit one’s desires. That’s the moderation thing.

One of Julia Child’s most famous recipes is her version of the classic French dish, Boeuf Bourguignon (Beef Burgundy).

The dish can be made simply without much effort, but Julia’s method is complicated. It takes most of a day’s worth of time, and requires flipping through her book, Mastering the Art of French Cooking to make three different recipes (the beef stew, Oignons Glacés Å Brun, and Champignons Sautés au Beurre) that come together to produce the final dish.

Having spent several days of my life over the last several years making Boeuf Bourguignon for people I love, I’ve come to believe Julia was teaching something deeper when she wrote her recipe for Boeuf Bourguignon.

  1. I think she was teaching people how to cook great tasting food apart from this one dish. There are at least 5 different delicious dishes you cook when you cook Julia’s Boeuf Bourguignon that you could serve to satisfy a foodie.
  2. Becoming an expert on several small things, when combined can result in in an extraordinarily super, fantastic thing.

I try to apply the lessons I learned from learning to cook Boeuf Bourguignon Julia’s way to nearly everything I do, and unless you trust me and learn to make it her way too, this blog post won’t help you have a bigger life.

I know most people reading this won’t do it, and for you, I’m offering an easier, less fancy alternative!

I’m going to give you my Chili recipe which is based on what I learned from mastering Julia’s Boeuf Bourguignon. It involves four recipes that are good on their own.

The first is my Salsa.

 

Neal Campbell's Salsa Recipe

Neal’s Salsa

Here’s What You Need:

  • 1 16oz. Can of Diced Tomatoes
  • 2 Jalapeño Peppers
  • 1/2 Onion
  • 1/2 Lemon
  • 1 Garlic clove
  • SALT

Here’s What You Do:

Neal Campbell's SalsaBlacken the Jalapeño peppers. It’s most fun to do it with a blow torch, but you can do it on an open flame, under a broiler, or in a skillet. When the skin of the pepper is black, rinse off the black stuff under a water faucet.

Do the same thing with the garlic clove, and if you’re brave, toast the onion too. It’s a little dangerous because the onion skin might burn your kitchen down.

Chop up the garlic and onion, then toss the onion, garlic, chopped peppers, and juice of half a lemon in a bowl. Add salt until it tastes good. When that mixture tastes good, Mix it with the diced tomatoes.

This salsa recipe is excellent on it’s own, but it’s also a great addition to other dishes, like Chili.

The second recipe is beans.

 

Beans

Neal’s Bean Recipe

Not everyone like beans in chili. If you make great tasting beans, though, they can be added to a bowl of chili when serving rather than to the master dish.

Here’s what you need:

  • 1/2 lb. beans … whatever you like (play around with different types)
  • Onion
  • Garlic
  • Salt
  • Olive Oil

Here’s what you do:

Add salt to a bowl of beans covered with water until you can dip your finger in the water, touch it to your tongue and enjoy the taste. Let the beans soak for 8 hours.

Add a handful of chopped onions to a pan along with about a tablespoon of Olive Oil. You can add more oil, but never less. Add a chopped garlic clove, and pour in the water-soaked beans. Stir it all together and taste the water. If it tastes good, you’re ready to cook. If it doesn’t, add salt until it tastes good.

Boil the beans for 30-minutes, then simmer covered until the beans are tender and taste great.

The third recipe is pepper and onions.

 

Pepper Onions

Neal’s Pepper and Onions

Here’s what you need:

  • 1/2 Onion, chopped
  • 4 pickled banana peppers chopped
  • 1/8 Cup of ranch dressing mix
  • Salt
  • 2 Tbs. Butter

Here’s what you do:

Throw everything into a pan except for the salt. Cook on medium until the onions are translucent. Add salt until you can take a bite and think it’s yummy.

The fourth recipe is the meat.

 

Chili Secret Ingredient is Corn Meal

Chili Meat

Here’s what you need:

  1. 2 lbs. hamburger
  2. 1/2 Cup chili powder
  3. 1 tsp. cayenne pepper
  4. 1 tsp. garlic powder
  5. 1 tsp. white pepper
  6. Salt
  7. Up to 1 Cup Corn Meal

Here’s what you do:

Cook the meat until it isn’t pink. Don’t worry about browning it. Throw in the dry ingredients (except for salt and corn meal) and mix that all up. The exact amounts aren’t that important. You can add more or less of anything. Add Chili powder based on color. Add Cayenne and garlic based on taste. Then add salt until the mixture taste great. Then add the corn meal.

Here’s the deal … fat is flavour, but chili with pools of dark red or orange grease isn’t appealing. Add enough corn meal to soak up the grease. That creates a powerful punch of flavour to the chilli.

After there are no pools of oil, throw in a cup or four of the salsa, the onion and banana pepper dish, and then choose to add beans now or later or not at all. Cover it with water and let it simmer.

If you learn to cook Julia’s Boeuf Bourguignon her way or chili my way inspired by what I learned from Julia, you will gain courage to make a recipe that is as unique as you are, and that’s a BEAUTIFUL thing!

Boeuf Bourguignon Song

by Neal Campbell | JC+NC

There Is Nothing Like The Swiss Alps

There Is Nothing Like The Swiss Alps

I arrived yesterday in Switzerland. I am here with Jane and our friends Steve and Kelly. The purpose of our trip is to enjoy a beautiful wedding reception for Steve and Kelly’s daughter Sarah who married a Swiss young man named Michael. While we are in Europe we are going to visit Paris, London, and Dublin. It should be a fun couple of weeks. Arriving yesterday in Zurich was stunning. It always is. The Alps can be seen in the distance. The trees and fields are beautiful from the sky. Switzerland really is one of the most beautiful countries on the planet.

If you have never traveled, I hope you will try it. There is something wonderful about stepping away from what is familiar to experience something different. Seeing landscapes, hearing language, and eating food that is different really causes you to grow. It gives you a great appreciation for where you live and an expanded understanding of this great world we inhabit.

Maybe a trip around the world is a little out there for you. A few weekends ago, Jane and I just drove 90 minutes from our home and the landscape dramatically changed. The air seemed cleaner. The sun seemed to shine a little brighter. Big life people have an expanded world view. It is obtained through reading and travel. Don’t miss it. This is your one life…..Live it big.

Shake It Off

Shake It Off

Recently my wife and I enjoyed a lovely lunch at a barbecue restaurant with my mom and stepdad. He is 80 and my mom is 72. They are both in good health and are very active. The waitress who served us was unusually pretty and kind. When we were getting ready to leave I told her we had talked about her and we all thought she resembled the great actress Audrey Hepburn. She told us what a compliment that was. We were impressed she knew who the late actress was. She went on and told us she was an aspiring singer. She said we could check out her music on Youtube or on her Facebook page. I made a mental note of her name to look her up later.

Two days after our barbecue visit, I went on Facebook to check the young waitress’s music out. My eyes were drawn to a post she had put up the day before. This is what she had written…..“Today, I had the nicest thing happen to me. I was serving a table of four elderly people who told me I reminded them of Audrey Hepburn. That made my day.”

Guess what? That was the first time in my life anyone has ever called me elderly. I am 54 years old. I am in reasonably good shape. I feel virile. But to this 20 something year old, I was elderly. Oh well….. We had a big laugh thinking about the words of our young waitress. I reminded myself that very day that this elderly guy still has a lot of mountains to climb and oceans to cross and battles to win. Are you with me? Don’t let someone else define you. You can’t live the big life allowing that to happen. You need to choose today what kind of life you are going to live and then live it.

Visioning And Being Present In The Work

Guest Post by Delaine Ross

Delaine Ross

Delaine Ross

Personal Trainer

Delaine Ross is an entrepreneur living in Atlanta.  She is also a  Senior Instructor and team leader certified by the Russian Strength icon Pavel Tsatsouline. Her gym, Condition Kettlebell, was named the Best All-in-one Workout gym in Atlanta magazine but she was named the best personal trainer in the city.

She is an author of Train With Delaine Vol. 1: Perfecting the Kettlebell Swing and Get-Up

She has a great DVD called Kettlebells for the Busy Professional, and she was also my guest on episode 4 of my Big Life Podcast!

For the past two years, visioning has been a part of my daily routine. I’m not kidding when I tell you miraculous things have happened and dreams have come to fruition beyond what I ever expected and oftentimes BETTER than what I had been looking at on my Pinterest vision board.

For much longer than that, I have been following Marie Forleo and eagerly await her video blog episode of Q and A Tuesday every week. This past week, she spoke of being present in your tasks and not thinking of the end goal but focusing on the task at hand to get better results. You can check out her video here.

How did all of that “being present” and “don’t focus on the end goal” fit in with my practice of visioning? If I wasn’t supposed to think of the end goal, where did that leave my Pinterest board? I took a minute to process (I was driving to Charleston to teach a kettlebell workshop so there was plenty of time to mull it over.)

What I took away from her video and my visioning is that there is a yin and a yang, kind of like there is a place for heavy lifting and a place for light lifting in many exercises. Once a day EVERY day, we should spend time focusing on the goal that we are trying to reach. Because fitness is my profession, I’m going to frame it in that context. We envision a certain weight over our head, a certain pair of jeans we can fit into, but when doing the actual work, we should focus on and ENJOY the process. In his book “Superhuman You,” my friend and mentor David Whitley speaks of success being “the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.” Progressive. You don’t have to be there yet. It’s a process. Enjoy the journey. Enjoy the process. Focus on being the best presser of whatever weight you are currently pressing to get you to your goal and be grateful for that training session. Be thankful you made it to the gym and enjoy those sets of exercises that will get you closer to that pair of jeans… without worrying that you can’t fit into them yet.

There is a place – an important one – for a visioning practice. Imagine and FEEL what it’s like to reach your goal. But keep that separate from the work. Enjoy and be present in the work and the journey will be much more enjoyable.

 

Seasons

Seasons

This weekend my wife and I drove in my convertible with the top down up to the North Georgia mountains. It was wonderful. It’s been an incredibly hot and long summer, but this weekend there was the first hint of coolness in the air. The leaves haven’t started changing, but it is only a matter of time. I love when the seasons change.

  • In life we find ourselves in seasons. It can be an exciting season of success and growth.
  • It can be a season of beginning new things like a new relationship, a new job, or moving into a new home.
  • There are seasons when we feel the familiar slipping away. We sense a change is on the horizon, but we don’t know what it involves.
  • There are also seasons of death. A loved one dies. A dream dies. A relationship dies. That’s a tough season to handle, but we all will go through it.

Here’s what I know for sure. The season you are in, whether it is an easy one or a tough one, won’t last forever. It will change. Just as the long summer is giving way to the cooler fall, so too, will the season you are in currently change to another season. I am trying to learn how to embrace the season I find myself in. If it is an enjoyable one with a lot of positive feelings, I try to celebrate it. If it is a scary season of uncertainty, I try to remind myself of other times when I was uncertain and somehow was able to move through the maze of uncertainty to clarity. And when I am in the season of death, I remind myself that it is ok to grieve what I am losing or have lost. It is all a part of the process.

There is something beautiful about all of the seasons. Big living means truly embracing the season you are in. It will change. And when it does, you will need to embrace the next season as well. This is life. You’ve got this.

Robert Finley – Age Don’t Mean a Thing

Robert Finley – Age Don’t Mean a Thing

In a culture obsessed with all things young and new  it’s nice to see someone realize a dream who is neither.

Robert Finley is 63 years old. His adult life has been lived doing respectable adult things. He served in the Army in the 1970’s. When he left the service, he spent decades as a carpenter in Northern Louisiana where he was born.

When his eyesight began to fail him, he couldn’t read the tape measure any longer, so building something truly square became almost impossible. Robert fell back on something he had dreamed of since he was a child. He would sing the blues professionally.

From the day he bought his first guitar as a child for $19.95, Robert loved the blues and soul music. His father was deeply religious and did not approve of those styles of music being played in the house. That prohibition did not dissuade the young Finley. He developed skills as a player that allowed him to entertain at local bars around Monroe, LA as a hobby while he pursued his regular occupations.

From Harland Sanders of Kentucky Fried Chicken fame who established his brand when he was 62 years old, to Grandma Moses who began her prolific painting career at 78 years of age, Finley joins the ranks of a rare group of people who accomplish a big dream in the latter years of life.

Finley’s debut album is called Age Don’t Mean A Thing and it is getting great reviews from the blues community. It should be an inspiration to all who are 50 and older. Your life isn’t over. There is still big living to do. And don’t forget the words of Robert Finley…..Age Don’t Mean A Thing.

Checkout the video and if you like the song as much as I did, share this post with someone who needs to know it’s not too late to pursue a dream.

“It’s like the song says, ‘Age Don’t Mean a Thing.’ See, you’ve got to hold to your dream; don’t ever let somebody tell you what you can’t do.”

Robert Finley

Blues Artist

Listening To My Wiser Self

Listening To My Wiser Self

Are you taking care of yourself properly? Is your health a priority? The reason I am asking is because this has been a weakness of mine my whole life. I love to eat. I eat when I am happy, sad, lonely, depressed, exhilarated, anxious, etc…..I love all kinds of food. I seriously like everything. Black licorice is about the only thing I can think of off the top of my head that I don’t love.  Ethnic food, southern cuisine, steaks, seafood, baked goods, you name it and I love it all – a lot. But all foods don’t necessarily love me.

As I have grown older,  I have realized different foods affect me. When I eat processed carbs, I wake up the next day feeling swollen and sluggish. When I eat too much sugar, I ache in my shoulders and joints. When I eat dairy, I feel bloated. When I was a young man I could eat anything I wanted and never had any consequences. That is not the case today.

I have been making wise eating choices lately.  These good decisions are coming from a different place. I am not eating better because I am thinking about being slimmer and looking better in my clothes. I am thinking about what makes me feel my best. That pie may look good but I feel like crap after I eat it. That pizza sure is enticing but my stomach aches after I eat it. That pasta is calling my name, but I have been there and done that. I don’t want to eat it now and feel punished by it later.

It has taken me a long time to learn this simple principle. Eating well is allowing me to live the big life I really want to live. I feel better and I have more energy. I am not a food nazi. I just try to use a little more wisdom now when I sit down to eat.

 

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